Setting boundaries with each other is important for healthy relationships. I’ve been interested in the concept and importance of setting personal limits. In all relationships, setting boundaries; healthy limits is so very important. My family as many others has had boundary challenges for as long as they’ve been my family. Once I started reading about the many challenges and solutions to boundary issues, I was intrigued.
I’ve learned a lot from author Anne Katherine, M.A. One of her books “Where To Draw The Line” was my first book on boundaries. As I was reading, at times in bed, I’d read something that would make me stop & say to George “listen to this, doesn’t this sound like something I’ve been dealing with?” He’d look at me & shake his head briskly.
So, what are boundaries? A boundary is a limit that promotes integrity. By the limits you set, you protect the integrity of your day, your energy & spirit, the health of your relationships, the pursuits of your heart. Each day is shaped by your choices. When you violate your own boundaries or let others violate them, stuffing spills out of your life.
A boundary is like a membrane that keeps an organism intact. It lets positive things through. It keeps harmful things out. Look at the parts of your life that work, that have integrity. This wholeness comes from the limits you have set to protect them. (This excerpt is from the introduction of Anne Katherine’s book “Where To Draw The Line.”)